The undoubted advantages of men in the profession
Communication between a doctor and a patient is a special science, the art of psychology and the culture of speech. Men in their questions and statements are usually more concise and precise, they ask questions more tactfully and delicately, talk about the problem. In practice, men do not have excessive lisping with patients, rudeness and familiarity, which women gynecologists can often afford. Men build their work more clearly - they deal with papers less, devote more time to the patient, they are more straightforward in matters of health and draw real pictures. Rarely in their work, male doctors allow a familiar attitude to the patient - "dear", "darling", etc., and also allow themselves a moralizing tone and lecturing, which women sometimes allow.
By the way, for the sake of interest, compare the queues at the sites in the clinic where male gynecologists work, they can be much longer than the queues for female doctors. Men are more tactful and delicate about the shyness of patients, their mental and physical sensations, they are usually more attentive and tactful, spread less over the tree and are more concise. Usually, male doctors have more time for science and professional interests. Usually, stiffness and difficulties in communication occur at the first visit to the doctor, and in the future it is easier for a woman to communicate with a doctor of the opposite sex.
If you are shy or don't want
If you are categorically against a male gynecologist, and do not want to be led and observed by a male doctor, you have the right by law to refuse the services of a doctor for any reason, including the like, you will be referred to another female doctor. You just need to say this at the reception or in the hospital during registration, but if you are refused, write an application to change the doctor in the name of the head of the department or the head physician of the antenatal clinic. The same must be done in the opposite situation - if, on the contrary, you want to get an appointment with a male doctor. You need to express your desire orally or in writing, or simply ask the doctor frequently to guide and observe you - this is also quite possible.
A male gynecologist is also a gynecologist, all his actions will be aimed at helping a woman maintain her reproductive health and give birth to healthy children. And it doesn’t matter what gender the doctor will be who will help your baby be born.
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Have you noticed too? I’m generally FOR the fact that only men were taken to gynecologists! .
Really. Although there is something to praise them for. At first I was skeptical about male gynecologists. Plus embarrassment.
I have the impression that only rude women are taken to gynecology. During pregnancy, ALWAYS after examining a woman, the blood goes down the lower abdomen for a week. That just hurts
Hryas-shake - WHOLE INSPECTION!
Men are another matter! In my life there are 4 muzhik gynecologists somewhere. And I NEVER had pain! It seems that the attitude is like a saint! Goddess, no less! Yes, and professionally so. Nothing hurts.
I have an uzist from God! The first time I was wildly embarrassed by him, and I missed the first appointment, I went to a woman, she brought me to tears, and didn’t really explain anything! Then she gathered her courage and stomped towards him. They did a vaginal ultrasound, the doctor was just wonderful, I understood all the symptoms that I described to him, prescribed the appointment, put everything on the shelves for me. I was amazed. He is 30 years old, but everyone runs to him in droves, just a really great doctor. With his help, I quickly solved all my problems. So I’m fine) Now suddenly something feminine worries, immediately to him
I can’t say that I get a wild buzz when visiting a male gynecologist, but they are definitely more informative, clear in their judgments and conclusions.
I go to a woman gynecologist, although to tell the truth I had to visit two male doctors. None of the ladies gynecologists examined me more accurately than they did, very carefully and delicately. Some women gynecologists rummage THERE like they are rummaging in their pocket, very unpleasant. If I knew a good male doctor, I would go to him, but gynecologists are usually in hospitals or maternity hospitals, we rarely have consultations, I know two in a private medical center, they had one. I go to a woman's doctor because I know about her professional qualifications and it's close to home. And so I don’t see the difference, I think male gynecologists are not up to charms, how many flickers in a day, they no longer react in any way.
I've been seeing women gynecologists all my life. And I climbed on this chair all my life, like on an electric chair. Because she knew that now the mirror would shove it up to the very tonsils and the stomach would wrinkle, as if the laundry was squeezing out. This spring, a male doctor was caught on a medical board. I didn't feel it at all! Although, when I entered the office, there was a slight panic. But there was nowhere to go. Everything is very professional, courteous, polite, without rudeness and does not hurt. Now I want ONLY a man to lead my future pregnancy!
Interestingly, the future wife initially did not believe that her chosen one was a female doctor. In the company of friends, he was often called "gynecologist", and she believed that this was a nickname, until one day Dmitry went to work in a antenatal clinic.
- Now her friends are pestering her with the question: "How is it ... with a gynecologist?" They are still asking. It's funny that even my gynecologist colleague asked her such a question!
Despite such an increased interest, the wife takes even nightly phone calls from patients calmly.
- How else, when the husband has only Tanya 40 on the phone, and it is necessary to speak with women confidentially and courteously, ─ Dmitry laughs.
"Daughters know where babies come from!"
A trusting relationship developed with Dmitry and his daughters. At the age of 9 and 10, the girls took a short course in "Sex Education School".
“They already know exactly how babies are made and understand the whole process. We didn't talk about cabbages or storks. Children develop a natural perception of the world. This is a feature of medical children.
But adult patients sometimes, at the sight of a male gynecologist, are still hushed up. Then the doctor tries to relieve the tension of the situation and joke.
- For example, to smooth out the moment of getting up on a chair, I say: "Dive, please!" This helps defuse the situation. I never say, "Get in!"
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"Belarusians have begun to pay more attention to women's health!"
Dmitry assures that no one has ever focused on his field. His work calendar is always scheduled to the eyeballs.
- Belarusians have begun to monitor women's health more. Increasingly, people come specifically from the districts to get a second opinion on their issue.
The doctor himself assures that everyone is equal for him: he does not see women, but patients. Therefore, they do not cause male interest. For their part, the patients also never allowed themselves flirtations.
- I don’t do anything on purpose to abstract, everything happens by itself. It may not sound the best, but in the office a woman is not an object, like a woman, but an object of a medical history, an object of research. I caught myself thinking that I don’t even notice very beautiful women, about whom many men would think that it’s worth “hooking up” with her. It's probably very professional.
"For Muslim women, they called a female doctor!"
By the way, some patients claim that they specifically choose a gynecologist - a man, because such a specialist is much more gentle and delicate.
- This is the conclusion of the patients themselves. In the professional community of gynecologists, it is not customary to divide specialists into men and women. There is also medical ethics. We don't compete.
By the way, in maternity hospital No. 2, where Dmitry worked for 10 years, there were many male gynecologists. And there were shifts where 4 doctors were on duty, all of them were men. There were sometimes situations when Muslim patients arrived who demanded a female doctor.
- It was a couple of times that we called a specialist from home, - Dmitry admits. - Such cases are agreed in advance with one of the employees living nearby. But because of the usual whims, no one will change doctors. Now I work in a maternity hospital based on the 1st hospital. And there are only two of us - male obstetrician-gynecologists.
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"Unfortunately, not everything depends only on us!"
Dmitry can take about 20 births per shift. And although the doctor jokes that "so many sacraments at once - too much," he is always sincerely happy if everything went perfectly.
- In our profession, you see the result instantly. He was born, he screamed, everything is fine with his mother - this is what delights us and pleases us immensely. This is the ideal birth for the OB/GYN.
It happens that women even complain about a wonderful birth from the point of view of a doctor. But doctors have their own objective measure - the Apgar scale. And indicators 8/8, 8/9 are markers that everything is fine. Sometimes the scores go down.
- Childbirth is a minefield. It seems that you know the path, and despite this, each birth can end differently.
"Listen to the staff and trust them, don't lose your head!"
It is possible to minimize the risks, according to Dmitry Trofimchik. You need to try to relax as much as possible and listen to the staff. And tune in to the fact that everyone in childbirth seeks to help, and not vice versa.
- We studied specifically to receive childbirth, we have experience, we have seen so much, and we, doctors, know how and what should proceed, and what is already an anomaly. Therefore, I ask everyone - trust! Now the age of primiparas is 25-26 years. And the older the patient, the more in the eyes of understanding the process, it is very easy to work with them. And the most difficult contingent is the youth of 18-20 years old!
Sometimes a gynecologist has to become a psychologist in the delivery room. Not everyone is able to cope with stress and pain. Then the women in labor and obscenities swear, and refuse to give birth. The doctor treats this with understanding. He assures that over time you get used to such behavior, and complains that "tightness and whims" do not play in the woman's favor.
- What do we do then? Yes, we have one very big plus - childbirth is a process that goes on by itself, the patient cannot do anything about it. No one has been pregnant yet.
"The story of every birth is unique"
As Dmitry admits, then everything is done quickly - the phrases should be short and clear, like commands.
- In such situations, it is pointless to say in a quiet, gentle voice: "Tanya, please calm down!" Tanechka simply can’t hear you anymore, the person is in pain shock, this is physiology. There is no time for sentiment. The account at this moment goes on seconds. And this happens on almost every shift. And most of all, it upsets us when women in labor try to lead us, having read articles on the Internet.
Smile! You are filmed by a hidden camera!
Always present in the delivery room and "invisible" lawyer obstetrician - a video camera. Now everything that happens during childbirth is recorded non-stop on special servers, to which only a few employees have access for official use. The record is kept to confirm the legitimacy of all actions of the medical staff.
- In response to any complaint, we raise the video, and usually after that all claims are removed. In the video, step by step, second by second, you can see what happened, what was done correctly. And thanks to the recording, you always know that you are not alone, that you are protected.
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They ask to anesthetize childbirth or do a caesarean
The most common claim of Belarusian women in labor to doctors today is anesthesia, supposedly they do it to everyone abroad.
This is a procedure prescribed by a doctor, Dmitry Trofimchik explains. And although the desire of the patient in some cases, doctors take into account, they proceed, first of all, from medical necessity.
- Today, everyone wants an "epidural" or "spinal". And they are not even done by obstetrician-gynecologists, but by anesthesiologists. And often those patients who enter into a contract for paid childbirth initially ask to include pain relief in their bill. What if there are contraindications? For example , amniotic fluid green or yellow?In this case, there are signs of fetal suffering, and it is impossible to anesthetize.Patients cannot assess the whole situation and begin to resent.
Also, according to the doctor, anesthesia has a very important nuance - the time factor. It cannot be done before or after a certain moment.
- For example, after 7-8 cm of opening, anesthesia is pointless and even dangerous. At this stage, she will already "interfere" with the woman to give birth. Also, do not forget that there are also neonatologists who remind you of a child. We must take into account the possible harm and health of the child. Our principle is do no harm.
Also, among the patients of maternity hospitals, there are a lot of those who demand an emergency caesarean, because "there is no more urine to endure."
But here the doctors are powerless, Dmitry Trofimchik explains, since this issue is regulated by law.
"The husband in childbirth is an assistant! Take it!"
But an experienced doctor supports the idea of partner childbirth that is fashionable today. In his opinion, it is comfortable for the woman in labor and helps the medical staff in their work.
- We listen to the heart, something has gone wrong (it has become less frequent, more often, the sensor has moved out), the dropper has run out, something hurts, it hurts ... Father comes out, calls one of the specialists. During childbirth, he is an additional guard for us and additional control for a woman.
The doctor also said that only half of the popes who came to give birth decide to enter the hall. And even Dmitry Trofimchik himself did not go to the delivery room for his wife during his own spontaneous partner birth!
- With the second daughter, the wife was already at a very late date, but did not show any signs of an impending birth. And then he calls: "I'm going!" In 30 minutes he comes to my delivery room. Here is such an experience - I am both a doctor and a father. That night, no one else gave birth and we had a full-fledged partner birth. However, when it came to pushing, my wife told me: "You're not going to the delivery room!" Left behind the door. A colleague took delivery. But to be honest, I myself did not rush there. Because, according to the medical superstitions of relatives, it is impossible to operate, treat, or take birth.
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By the way, the myth that a man can be "turned away" from his wife if he is present at the birth is broken by the experience of a gynecologist. This has never happened before in his practice.
- It's a myth, in my opinion. I have a lot of friends, former patients who gave birth together. No one has ever come up with such a problem. I also consider it a delusion that the suffering of a woman in childbirth, which the husband sees, can somehow strengthen the marriage.
"Deadline IVF - 49 years, but it is better to give birth before 35!"
The doctor does not recommend and delay the first birth. Of course, modern medicine works wonders, but according to the law in Belarus, the possibilities of the same IVF are limited - the procedure can be done for women up to 49 years old inclusive. The same age is prescribed in the WHO recommendations.
“But it’s worth making a reservation: no one guarantees that everything will be successful at the age of 49,” emphasizes Dmitry Trofimchik. - Therefore, our obstetricians-gynecologists adhere to a different term for the onset of the first pregnancy - up to 35 years. And if at this age a woman has not yet given birth and does not even plan, then I can predict that things will not go smoothly for her in the future. At the same time, it must be remembered that the average age of menopause in Belarusian women is 48-52 years.
As the gynecologist explains, after 35 years, every woman begins to decrease the ovarian reserve.
- Men, as usual, were lucky. Every 90-120 days they produce a new portion of spermatozoa, which, even at the age of 70 (theoretically), can meet an egg on the way. And in women, unfortunately, the number of eggs is constantly decreasing. And their quality is getting worse every year.
In addition, the doctor recalls that in human body every second there is a mutation and there is a special system - the immune system, which fights these processes. With age, the number of mutations increases, and the immune system works worse and worse. And serious illnesses can develop. Including oncology. Therefore, the quality of chromosomal material - spermatozoa or eggs - also decreases. And the amount of female hormones decreases with age.
"Endometriosis is the scourge of the modern woman!"
Another scourge of modern Belarusian women is endometriosis. The disease has become very active over the past 25 years.
- Grandmothers-great-grandmothers became pregnant and gave birth endlessly. I got my period every 2-3 years. Thus, the woman's body performed its main function, conceived by nature. Now the situation is not at all the same. Perhaps it is not for nothing that endometriosis is called the disease of civilization. This is a kind of woman's payment for the fact that she gives birth to one or two children, and then becomes the director of the company, politician, head of the company, or "lives for herself."
According to Dmitry Trofimchik, the best way to avoid endometriosis is to have a baby. Pregnancy, breastfeeding, two or three or four children - a guarantee that everything will be fine for a woman.
And finally, the doctor reminds that it is always better to engage in prevention than treatment. Go to the gynecologist annually if you have a regular sexual partner and there are no problems. But when changing a partner or when complaints appear, you should consult a doctor immediately to rule out diseases and pathologies.
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December 24, 2013, 04:31I was also a romantic...until I became a gynecologist.
Scientists psychologists have found that men choose the specialty of a gynecologist for a reason. Male gynecologists can be divided into two categories. The first are people who are insecure in themselves, who, with the help of proximity (even if only medical) to women, hope to improve their personal lives: “what if something happens to me too.” And indeed, after several years of work in the chosen specialty, the personal life of such doctors is improving significantly: they already easily communicate with women and feel much more relaxed.
The second category is, on the contrary, men "sexual athletes" who are used to close attention from women. But, in their opinion, good things do not happen much. And Gynecology for them is just a gold mine, where they can shine in all their sexual glory. But, alas, most women come to the doctor not to enjoy, but to be treated. So in this sense, male doctors will be disappointed. In the future, they calm down and continue to just calmly work.
George, 32 years old, gynecologist, reproductive embryologist:
My father advised me to become a gynecologist. I always wanted to be just a surgeon. But my father assured me that he himself had not made up his mind at one time only because this profession obliges one to bear responsibility not only for the patient, but also for his child, i.e. for two. From school I was very shy and, to be honest, at first I resisted my father's persuasion. I thought how I could look my grandmother in the eyes when she asks: what have I finally become. For a Caucasian man, this is generally a shameful topic. Suffice it to say that when I was about to get married, my profession became one of the stumbling blocks for the father of my fiancee. He told her: you will live with a man who will be surrounded by women every day!
But I did not regret that I chose this specialty. My purely academic and medical attitude to the chosen specialty helped me in this. Of course, there are women who, for various reasons, would like to get an appointment with a male gynecologist, but most of them (thank God) still feel a sense of shame, and if I behave "wrongly", I will simply lose my bread, my clientele. Over the years of work, I have already learned to behave in such a way with women that even those who, perhaps, were afraid to come to my appointment, after 10 minutes of conversation, calm down 100%. At work - I'm not a man, I'm a doctor - a sexless creature, otherwise I personally can't! My personal opinion is that male gynecologists who are aroused by their patients should not be allowed to do this kind of work at all. In this state, the head, to put it mildly, does not cook, which means that instead of solving the problems that they turned to him, this doctor can only help in another matter (the issue that is addressed to completely different institutions). To be honest, I was scared (not by doctors) that in such a profession I would become impotent. And that worried me a lot. I directly addressed this question to my female gynecologists. So they answered me in chorus that most of the gynecologists of the male colleagues they know are not only not impotent or homosexual, but even, in their opinion, on the contrary, sexually hyperactive. Later I experienced it myself...
Konstantin, 33 years old, obstetrician-gynecologist:
Why did you choose this specialty? I don’t remember now - it was a long time ago, you know, Khrushchev leaves, Brezhnev comes, it’s difficult to get a job at the factory, no one takes it to the collective farm, and there was a rural hospital nearby with training courses for gynecologists, well, I went there, unlearned in 2 months and went to work .... well, something like this (Laughs, slyly screwing up his eyes). I'm kidding, of course. It just happened. I even surprise myself, I was so shy! Of course, the specifics of the profession are reflected in intimate life, but rather in a good way - you don’t want casual relationships, because. many beautiful girls have big problems with gynecology - at best, STIs (sexually transmitted infections - author's note), at worst - HIV. But with regard to impotence - it is unlikely that other causes cause impotence in men. Well, there was nothing like that - like sex in the gynecology room! The specificity of medicine is such that SICK people come to you who need not sex, but a solution to their problems, test drives are discussed in car dealerships, and not in technical centers! And so, someone likes it as a human being, someone does not like it. Even to beautiful girls at the reception, you don’t feel any unprofessional feelings. There is no romance in the gynecological office! Romances with patients in gynecologists are likely to be less common than in doctors of other specialties (even less often, probably only in psychiatry). The best option for dating - traumatologists...
Yuri, 42 years old, gynecologist:
How do I feel when a beautiful woman comes to the reception? Nothing special. It is important to separate professional and personal. Then everything will be gut. The notorious Bykov ("Interns") would make an excellent gynecologist. He, Bykov, is very close to me in spirit. Although, of course, everything happened in my youth, I will not hide it. Eh, youth-youth... A member there, a member of the court... Over the years, professionalism came, which put everything in its place.
Vitaly, 33 years old, obstetrician-gynecologist:
What novels! First of all, there must be professionalism. I've seen so many things that it's hard to surprise me with something. A patient comes to us for an appointment, but we do not perceive her as a woman. No, of course, we are not insensitive blockheads ... I remember, as a student, I did an internship in a women's clinic. A very beautiful girl of 19 years old came to the reception. So she was THAT undressed! Apparently, especially for me. I could not even take tests from her, I asked the doctor to do it instead of me. Why couldn't? I just couldn’t get up… But that was a long time ago! I was quite young then.
Eduard, 37 years old, gynecologist:
As early as my 2nd year of medical school, I was fascinated by the complexity and at the same time the fragility of the female reproductive system. That's when I decided - this is mine! It happened, of course, that a very beautiful girl came to the reception, and as a man, naturally, I had not quite professional feelings for her. It happened, even, not just excitement or desire, but more ... Women came who tried to flirt with me, but in such situations a bathrobe saves me. In general, over time you become terribly squeamish, sensitive to smells, etc. But with a certain circle of patients, special relationships are established, built on mutual sympathy, respect, and understanding. I single them out because in some way each of them is unusual. In me they find a friend who understands them more than others, can help with advice. We often talk at the reception, and this does not prevent us from often being on good terms with their husbands. But I also saw jealousy towards me - this is when the husband did not reach his wife in terms of development. In short, there was mental intimacy, and we both got a lot from this communication. Before sex, I did not bring (gone). Did my profession affect my family life? I will say right away - it did not reflect negatively. But, firstly, it helped to better understand my spouse (I'm also just a husband), and secondly, I began to make terribly high demands on, mmm, an imaginary ideal.
So, based on the responses received from male gynecologists, here is what we can advise. If you want to arouse in the doctor not only professional, but also erotic interest, then you need to choose someone who is just starting his thorny path in gynecology. And if there is simply a need to get to an intelligent doctor who doesn’t care what gender his patient is, then it’s better to go to a gynecologist with great experience: he has already seen so much that you can be calm for the chastity of his actions, thoughts and fantasies.
Already finishing the article, I suddenly remembered one familiar couple - he is a gynecologist, and she is a urologist. Such beautiful, prominent, always looked good together. I kept thinking: how is their intimate life after such work? But I was embarrassed to ask, it's inconvenient after all. And recently I found out that they were divorced - she left her husband for her patient, whom she was treating for prostatitis ...
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Many of the women like to actively discuss their doctors in Internet forums, especially if they are gynecologists. And if the gynecologist is a man, the discussion is several times more active. What is the fundamental difference between male gynecologists and female gynecologists?
IN medical university at the department of obstetrics and gynecology, men always come much less than women - it is believed that this delicate area is not entirely a man's business. On the other hand, patient reviews of male doctors are always much warmer and more positive. However, if a male gynecologist turned out to be a doctor during your pregnancy or during an examination, not all women feel easy, although it is believed that a doctor is a sexless profession and there is no reason for doubt and embarrassment. Let's discuss this topic with you in more detail.
What do women say
Many of the women say that if the gynecologist is a man, they feel embarrassed, ashamed and squeezed. And it doesn't matter if it's an examination in a district clinic or the birth of a child, women feel discomfort. But this feeling is noted not by all female patients of gynecological clinics. According to statistics and opinion polls among women, about 35-40% of women believe that the sex of a doctor does not matter, as long as the doctor is a professional and knows how to treat well, assist in childbirth, etc. Approximately 10-15% of women say that a male gynecologist is even better than a woman - more sensitive and attentive, but the remaining 45-50% of women believe that a male doctor is terrible! But why does such an attitude of women towards a doctor arise, what are the reasons for such a negative attitude towards doctors of this specialty, because in other areas of medicine, male doctors do not cause such a violent negative reaction. Such a reaction occurs not only among our women, these are global trends that do not depend on upbringing, stereotypes or country of residence.
But the religious orientation and the education system also have their own significance - in Iran, male gynecologists in medical universities are not taught in principle, if men work there, then already decrepit old men of the older generation, who are working on retirement. Women in this country are treated strictly by women, and men are treated strictly by men. But in Syria, European countries and England, there are a lot of male gynecologists, they have a prestigious and not at all shameful profession. Such doctors in these countries examine women, are very successful in treating many women's diseases, can give excellent advice in the field of contraception, can deliver and perform abortions. One of the male gynecologists in Britain was so imbued with the problems of patients that he even decided on a sex change (I am glad that this has not become a mass trend).
Why do men go into the profession?
Being a gynecologist is no worse than being any other doctor, it’s just that the scope of work is so intimate, delicate, but, by and large, the doctor doesn’t spin novels with you, but treats you, and he doesn’t see any special diversity in his field of activity, hardly whether you have such a pathology that can surprise or scare him. Therefore, this profession is absolutely the same as a dentist or a therapist, he will not discuss you with friends over a glass of beer after hours, he does not need it, so you should not believe stupid gossip about the vulgarity or rudeness of male gynecologists, and that more about their tendency to molest. Usually it is just the opposite, it is the patients who often give the doctor too much attention!
Many people think that only a man with special inclinations or predilections can go into such a profession - but this is absolutely not the case, male gynecologists are no different from other doctors. And the work that helps millions of women to find the joy of motherhood or to be healthy and beautiful is worthy of respect, regardless of the gender of the doctor.
men in the profession
Gynecology is a very dynamic branch of medical science, and people enter it by vocation and by the call of the soul and heart, there are practically no random people in such a serious matter - especially men. Often these are whole family obstetric and gynecological dynasties, male doctors follow in the footsteps of their relatives in medicine, they often reach great heights - heads of departments, chief doctors, chief medical officers, heads of departments and scientific societies. Men in gynecology are engaged in science and the development of new methods of research and treatment, they operate a lot. By the way, the development of the method of in vitro fertilization and the test-tube baby is the merit of male obstetricians and gynecologists. Introduce this method into science and practice by the male embryologist and gynecologist. Many modern minimally invasive obstetric techniques have also been introduced by male doctors. And reviews about the unprofessionalism and rudeness of male doctors are less common than women, but this is a human factor.
The psychology of the question
If we do not take into account the religious side of the issue and certain traditions that have developed in obstetrics in different countries, among the problems that arise in connection with a visit by a woman to a male gynecologist, two fundamental reasons can be distinguished:
Constriction of one's own physical problems of the body,
Belief in a man's incompetence in purely feminine matters (how can he understand me, if he does not have a uterus and genitals, he cannot feel it for himself). Women believe that the purely theoretical knowledge of a male doctor can complicate the diagnosis of problems in their health in terms of menstruation, pregnancy, childbirth.
Of course, a man himself will not be able to feel the changes and processes taking place in the female body, but this does not prevent him from being a professional in his field, moreover, men in this regard are often more delicate and gentle than women, the examination of a man is more comfortable ( so say many female patients at male doctors). And also, if you really need advice or help - it’s not the time to think about what gender your doctor will be - a man or a woman, you should only care about the doctor’s professional skills, and not wearing a skirt or trousers under a dressing gown. If you want to know the truth about the professionalism of a doctor, talk to his patients, they will tell you all the advantages and disadvantages of the doctor, and his sexual characteristics will not be at the forefront at all.
A male doctor at work does not view you as an erotic object, whether you are a skinny Cinderella or a curvaceous queen, you are a patient for him, like many of the other patients, and it is his job to treat you, not evaluate you. If he evaluates your height and weight, he does it for a professional purpose, and not out of idle interest.
By the way, for the sake of interest, compare the queues at the sites in the clinic where male gynecologists work, they can be much longer than the queues for female doctors. Men are more tactful and delicate about the shyness of patients, their mental and physical sensations, they are usually more attentive and tactful, spread less over the tree and are more concise. Usually, male doctors have more time for science and professional interests.
Usually, stiffness and difficulties in communication occur at the first visit to the doctor, and in the future it is easier for a woman to communicate with a doctor of the opposite sex.
Myths about such doctors
There are many myths about male gynecologists, especially those that relate to the personal life of doctors. Allegedly, if you look at the intimate charms of other women all day, sexual desire disappears and your own girls or wives are perceived without desire. But this is not so, because in any work there is professionalism and dilettantism, if women are perceived at work as a sexual object, a doctor has no place in this profession. But usually male doctors are professionals and their brain is able to abstract from the intimate side of the problem. But in a home and non-working atmosphere, they are ordinary people. Working surrounded by women is possible not only in gynecology, there are many other professions, you just don’t need to mix work and personal life. The wives of gynecologists can sleep peacefully - over the years of work, their husbands have seen such things that at home they are looking for peace and relaxation from the intimate delights of patients.
The undoubted advantages of men in the profession
Communication between a doctor and a patient is a special science, the art of psychology and the culture of speech. Men in their questions and statements are usually more concise and precise, they ask questions more tactfully and delicately, talk about the problem. In practice, men do not have excessive lisping with patients, rudeness and familiarity, which women gynecologists can often afford. Men build their work more clearly - they do less paperwork, devote more time to the patient, they are more straightforward in matters of health and draw real pictures. Rarely in their work, male doctors allow a familiar attitude to the patient - "darling", "darling", etc., and also allow themselves a moralizing tone and lecturing, which women sometimes allow.
If you are shy or don't want
If you are categorically against a male gynecologist, and do not want to be led and observed by a male doctor, you have the right by law to refuse the services of a doctor for any reason, including the like, you will be referred to another female doctor. You just need to say this at the reception or in the hospital during registration, but if you are refused, write an application to change the doctor in the name of the head of the department or the head physician of the antenatal clinic.
The same must be done in the opposite situation - if, on the contrary, you want to get an appointment with a male doctor. You need to express your desire orally or in writing, or simply ask the doctor frequently to guide and observe you - this is also quite possible.
A male gynecologist is also a gynecologist, all his actions will be aimed at helping a woman maintain her reproductive health and give birth to healthy children. And it doesn’t matter what gender the doctor will be who will help your baby be born.
22.05.2009 14:28
Here is an article I found
Male gynecologists are divided into two groups. The first - men, initially insecure. They go into the profession with a secret (or even conscious) hope: I will be closer to this matter, maybe I will get something ... And indeed, their sexual performance is improving. Of course, not at the expense of patients, but simply they learn to communicate with the weaker sex, and even in the nude. A man finally acquires the necessary self-confidence, and therefore behaves more relaxedly in his personal life. Naturally, his sexual performance does not skyrocket, but reaches the ceiling in the range in which it is possible for him personally.
The second group is the reverse case. Men who are initially self-confident, so to speak, are sexy athletes. But the calculation is the same: I will be closer to the raspberries, I will improve my athletic performance. However - figurines. These livestock quickly leave the sexy Olympus and occupy a rather modest place among other men. Such an outcome is understandable: the "athlete" is constantly on edge, and here all the time the most secret lures creep into the eyes, which excite, excite, but do not give satisfaction. A man burns out, his sexuality is reduced.
It seems that everything is logically laid out on the shelves. But in fact, in real life, THIS is extremely rare (especially with the second group). Clearly defined types are extremely rare, and the choice of specialty often occurs not by our choice, but by coincidence: there was pressure from the parents, or there was support specifically in gynecology, and not, for example, in endocrinology, etc. Therefore, the described case does not happen often.
The self-preservation instinct kicks in very clearly. Quite quickly, a male gynecologist learns to distinguish between a woman in a chair and a woman in bed. The first does not cause any sexual emotions, the second remains desirable. Sometimes a male gynecologist can even appreciate a woman sitting in the hallway near his office, but point-blank will not see her as a possible partner when she finally decomposes in a gynecological chair.
And in general - a woman attracts with her mystery. And if she first tells everything, and then she shows everything - what a mystery there is ...
Even gynecologists (as well as urologists, surgeons, and other male doctors) who have had affairs with female patients say that these women, in some indescribable way, managed to remain a mystery, which is why something worked out with them. But such cases are no different from ordinary novels, which often begin in a working environment. So there is no specificity associated with the specialty here.
But the whispering that male gynecologists are sexual maniacs who drool while standing between the legs of the patient is just the languid dreams of the ladies. They, poor things, do not understand that in SUCH a picture there is nothing not only erotic, but also pornographic. Both erotica and pornography are based on emotions, imagination, vice, and there is nothing exciting in a direct look at a separate part of the body. So in vain the ladies fuss and hesitate to be naked in front of a male doctor: their emotions are caused by their own secret dreams of intimacy in the doctor's office.
Again, from communication with colleagues - gynecologists and male sexologists, they do not have any features of sexuality. They are no more or less intimately active than other doctors and non-doctors. They also marry and divorce, have and do not have mistresses, fall for the bait of charmers or avoid traps. After all, knowledge is not a guarantee of success in life. If that were the case, how would psychologists live! But in fact, alas, many psychologists simply do not see point-blank what is happening around them and under their noses, live somehow, fall into the simplest traps. Science and the worldly mind are completely different things.
The other side of the coin is the gynecologist's wife. Contrary to popular belief, wives, as a rule, are not jealous of their husbands for their work. Yes, and how can you be jealous if the faithful in the evening, over a cup of tea, begins to talk about a difficult day at work: “I came here alone, like a decent one, but when I lay down in a chair, I smelled such a smell from her. I took a smear, and there are solid gonococci and trichomonas And she wonders where, I'm so honest, I live alone, there are no men. Well, of course, the wind blew." And so day after day - then infections, then prolapse of the uterus, then abortions. No romance, which wives may be afraid of. So at first - yes, the young wife has some wariness, and then it dawns on her that this work rather sobers up the romance than fascinates the realist.
True, if gynecologists have a professional bias: at some point it becomes difficult for them to communicate with women in real life. And it pulls at the fifth minute of the conversation to habitually ask: - And when did you have your last menstruation?
On the other hand, gynecologists-fathers are more often liked by daughters. They probably subconsciously feel an understanding person. They share what it is usually customary to trust mom, load stories about romance, consult about contraception, etc.
In a word, a normal profession, perhaps even more masculine than feminine, because it is inherent in a real man to take care of the weaker sex. And in general, the topic is uninteresting to male gynecologists themselves, and for the rest it is exotic only in such a way that we are interested in stories about the life of the Mumbo-Yumbo tribe, and the reports about them are of no interest to the savages themselves.