Can't you stop thinking about that man? Are you tired of waiting for him to make the first move? Perhaps you and he are just friends, but maybe there is something more between you? Almost every woman has been secretly in love with someone at least once in her life. Admit your feelings to yourself and think about your personal life. Open your feelings to that man. Our advice will help you with this.
Steps
How to show a man your sympathy
- If in the conversation he mentioned some sports games and stadiums that he often visits, take your girlfriend and go there!
- Add him as a friend on social media and follow him on Twitter to stay updated on his social life. Think about what his hobbies might interest you so as not to feel out of place.
- Try getting closer to his friends to see what they usually do together. Once you know their weekend or evening plans, ask if you and your friends can join. Such a cunning plan will hide your sincere motives, and his friends will not think that you are deliberately trying to arrange a meeting with the man you like.
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Smile at him and make eye contact. If you're in the same room, let him catch your eye. Once this happens, smile into his eyes for a couple of seconds and then look away. Also, whenever you catch him looking at you, smile and show him that you like his attention.
Buy him a gift. This should be some kind of symbolic gift that will demonstrate your attention and interest. You should not buy some expensive gift or give just money - this option is absolutely unacceptable. Choose a gift that matches his interests or reminds him of some good times (perhaps spent with you). For example, you can give a figurine of his favorite athlete or tickets to a concert of a musical group that you both like. If you are into crafts, you can make a gift with your own hands. For example, you can decorate a frame and insert a photo of you together. Or you can create a whole collage of some interesting and memorable moments from his life.
Surround him with attention. Show that you are interested in everything he says or does. This is one of the first steps to demonstrating your sympathy. Whether you're spending time together or hanging out, this is the perfect opportunity to show him your affection.
Try to “accidentally” come across it somewhere. If you've ever managed to strike up a conversation with him and ask a few questions, you most likely already know at least something about his interests and hobbies, so you can guess where he might spend his time. Perhaps he plays in a band or goes to sporting events? What bar does he usually spend his weekends at?
The relationship between a man and a woman is a very complex system. They may be connected by the same interests, a favorite football team or some writer. However, there will definitely be a topic about which everyone will have their own personal opinion. If your man stands his ground and doesn't accept your point of view, this becomes a problem. How can I explain to him that he is wrong without offending him? There are many options for the development of such a situation.
Is this important to you
If you are wondering how to explain to your husband that he is wrong, then first decide whether this issue is important to you. Maybe you should agree with your spouse and not spoil your nerves? If your family life depends on this dispute, then you can cause a scandal. And if you are starting a conflict only for the sake of self-affirmation, then it is better to pause here. Time will pass and everything will fall into place.
Are you authoritative for your husband?
For your husband to listen to your opinion, you need to have high authority in his eyes. To raise this authority, you need to have a person nearby who will help you with this. For example, if his mother constantly talks about how much she appreciates you, then he will listen to you.
The main rule
During arguments, never insult your man. Everything will be resolved and forgotten the next day, but resentment can settle in the heart and remain there for a long time.
How to be savvy in the topic of disputes with your husband? You can ask your male friends how to explain to a person that he is wrong. Most likely, hearing a few opinions will help you create a template that will make it easier to talk to your man.
Talk to your mother and find out how she handled disputes with your father. Ask for advice on how to explain to him that he is wrong? You can also ask your mother-in-law about this issue, because she should know her son better. However, you need to do this only if you have a good relationship with her. Otherwise, it may turn out that his mother will also take the husband’s side.
How to behave during a dispute
So, after listening to all kinds of advice, you need to go on the offensive. However, if you are interested in the question of how to explain to him that he is wrong, this does not mean that you are right. Maybe you are the one who needs to listen to his words. If you are sure that you are right, remember that the offensive should take place quietly, without scandals or breaking dishes. Try to calmly explain to your husband that he is wrong. Give arguments to support your words. If the conversation doesn't work out and you feel like you're starting to boil, it's better to end the argument. You can count to 20, take a deep breath - sometimes this helps calm your nerves. If this method does not help you, there is another way out.
A letter instead of a scandal
If the dispute does not stop, and you do not know how to explain to him that he is wrong, write a letter. It can be either on a regular sheet of paper or in electronic form. The main thing is that you must write it with cool head. Give your reasons, provide arguments. When writing, try to use the pronoun “you” less. If you start a sentence with this word, the person will immediately have a defensive reaction, and he will stop hearing you. It is better to use the pronoun “I”. For example, “You constantly yell at me” or “I have a very hard time with yelling at me, please try not to do that again.” Agree, the meaning of these two sentences is the same, but the answer to them can be completely different.
Silence is not a sign of consent
Some women, in order to achieve results, declare a boycott. Many men cannot stand the silence of their beloved and agree with her. Others, on the contrary, are only glad that she is finally silent. Therefore, if you see that your silence does not lead to the desired result, you urgently need to change tactics. Sit down at the negotiating table. Give your husband the opportunity to speak out, listen to his opinion. Then you can express your point of view. Speak only to the point, do not move on to other topics.
Remember, if your husband nevertheless accepted your point of view and admitted that he was wrong, do not trumpet this to everyone you meet. It will be unpleasant for your husband to find out that you humiliate him and tell everyone that he does everything as you say. Next time he will not take your side and will bend his stick to the end.
Also try to pass off your idea as his. After all, it doesn’t matter who came up with a way out of a difficult situation, the main thing is that you were able to resolve the dispute and maintain good relationships in the family.
Every married couple faces controversial issues. The husband has his own point of view, and the wife has the opposite. A smart wife asks the question: how to explain to him that he is wrong? To preserve the family idyll, there is no need to shout and create scandals. Try to resolve everything peacefully. You can enlist the support of authority. For example, my husband's parents or his brother. However, this must be done carefully. After all, your husband may be angry that you wash dirty linen in public.
Any dispute must be resolved calmly. Then your husband will appreciate it, your relationship will become stronger, and there will be fewer controversial situations.
A woman draws vital energy from nature, a man receives energy from a woman. You can return what you received and, accordingly, establish energy exchange with the help of gifts. There is a pattern: everything given to a woman will be returned to her lover tenfold. But greedy men close the energy flow on themselves, and their business becomes stagnant. And vice versa - generous men achieve a lot: their women easily part with their energy for the sake of their loved one, and it increases his strength and power.
How to support a man?
Men don't like being given advice or sympathy without asking. They want to be trusted. Men need to constantly assert themselves. They get a lot of pleasure from achieving something on their own. A man feels supported when a Woman tells him something like: “I believe in you, that you can handle it on your own. I trust you with this until you openly ask for help.”
Many women believe that the only way to achieve what they want in a relationship with a Man is to criticize him when he is wrong and give advice when he does not ask for it. A woman often has no idea that she can motivate a man to do something, just by asking him about it directly, without criticism or advice. If a Woman doesn't like the way a Man behaves, she should tell him so directly, without judging him or saying that he is wrong or that he is bad.
There are three magic words that can support a Man: “It’s not your fault.” When a Woman shares her sorrows with a Man, she will be very supportive if she says: “I really appreciate that you listen to me. If you think that I’m blaming you, then I’m not - I’m just sharing with you what I feel.”
The fact is that a Man often perceives as an accusation that a Woman innocently tells him about her disappointments - this instantly blocks communication and negatively affects the relationship. It is important to remember that good communication requires the participation of both parties. A man should not forget that complaints are not accusations, and when a Woman complains, she is simply trying to relieve tension by talking about what upsets her. And it is important for a Woman to let a Man know that she appreciates him, despite all her complaints.
Men are very upset when they do not require them to solve a problem, because they need to feel good in every sense. By letting a Man know that he is helping her a lot, simply by listening to her, a Woman opens his eyes to her nature and at the same time gives him a reason for self-affirmation, which is so precious for a Man.
In order to support the Man, A woman should not suppress her feelings or change them. However, it is important for her to learn to express them in such a way that the Man does not feel that he is being attacked, blamed or judged. A small change in the internal emphasis in expressing feelings can give amazing results!
John Gray
WHAT A MAN WANTS FROM A WOMAN
✔I want you to listen to me, but not judge me.
✔ I want you to speak up without giving me advice unless I ask.
✔ I want you to trust me without demanding anything.
✔ I want you to be my support without trying to decide for me.
✔ I want you to take care of me, but not treat me like a mother to her son.
✔ I want you to look at me without trying to achieve something from me.
✔ I want you to hug me, but not strangle me.
✔ I want you to encourage me, but not lie.
✔ I want you to support me in the conversation, but not answer for me.
✔ I want you to be closer, but leave me personal space.
✔ I want you to know about my unattractive traits, accept them and not try to change them.
✔ I want you to know... that you can count on me... Without limits.
Jorge Bucay
PHRASES that can have a striking effect on men:
1. My Beloved (this is IMPORTANT: do not use the word - Dear, this word no longer contains the necessary information. On the contrary, this word in relation to a man has a glamorous and mannered connotation);
2. Strong (I think comments are unnecessary here)
3. The most daring (most importantly, to say with a complete lack of irony)
4. You are the best (an awesome phrase, it works for almost all types of men of any age)
5. Sexy (Oh yeah!)
6. Smart (amazing effect - the word is bomb!)
7. Generous (Real men believe that they are like this, however, so do fake Jews)
8. Smart girl, well done (don’t be shy: use these words generously and often, and you will be happy!)
9. Unsurpassed (in a specific matter)
10. Awesome
11. I feel so good with you (it can be after intimacy, it can be just like that, an excellent phrase that never happens enough!);
12. You turn me on (and also “insert” me - and to be honest, this is a treasure for close relationships, a hook phrase);
13. I miss you so much (a good phrase if you are apart);
14. I admire you (no comments!)
15. I love you so much (often, often, constantly tell HIM this phrase, believe me - it works!)
16. You know how to make me laugh (strange, but eternal boys like this crazy phrase, tested it on my own!)
17. Only you understand me (Often, with soulful intonation, the result will be excellent!)
18. You know me inside and out (A wonderful phrase that creates trust, the main thing is not to do the opposite, otherwise it won’t work)
19. You are the only one for me (Let's please their male ego!)
20. I adore your touch (Let them learn, dear and beloved, it will be useful for them where a woman is pleased and where she is not)
21. I’m behind you like behind a stone wall (Once a week is an excellent frequency of use)
22. I breathe you (you can change the ending to “I live”)
23. I can’t imagine what I would do without you (As they (men) dream about this, so more often, with the right intonation and tenderness in their eyes.)
24. I feel so calm next to you (same effect as in the phrase “stone wall”)
25. You are so gallant (subtle compliment)
26. I’m so happy with you (A great phrase used by 90% of the male population)
27. I don’t want you to ever stop loving me (small suggestion)
28. I can’t stop admiring you (Psychologists say that men look in the mirror more often than beautiful ladies, which means it works!)
29. I will love you forever (No need for pathos, it’s better to say “always”)
30. I miss your hugs (Great phrase that works 100% when you're apart)
31. I ask for forgiveness (works 100%, no need to beg him to forgive, say 150 empty words, better say it)
32. You are so insatiable (Men dream of being like this, so let’s tell them THIS!)
33. I feel so lonely without you (Good energy, tell him this often on the phone, in letters, SMS)
34. I can’t wait to see you (Logically, it’s worth a try, most likely he will “eat it”)
35. I miss you so much (on the phone, in a letter - amazing effect)
36. I don't need anything but your love. (Yes, yes, cool wording, here you are hinting that he is needed as he is, without a car, apartment, etc. They appreciate it.)
37. I trust you in everything (Good phrase, it works)
38. I will follow you to the ends of the earth (You can also use “earth”, “planet”)
39. You are my prince on a white horse (or on a Mercedes. Use only in relation to a loved one)
40. Just be with me (yes, these boys still believe in “just”)
41. I am so grateful to you for everything you have done for me (works well, proven phrase, works 100 percent)
42. I want to be with you forever (Oddly enough, despite some pathos, this is a phrase that many men fall for. Try it.)
43. I want to wake up next to you every morning (Chic magnet, go for it, girls!)
44. The thought of being separated from you kills me (sometimes this is possible, if it’s infrequent and to the point!)
45. I have never loved anyone so much! (Don’t say this very often, otherwise the man begins to think, how many of them were there, these same “nobodies”, and why did she put this together, and what if...? Well, in general, you understand!)
46. You know how to be so gentle (great phrase, let them believe it and become more gentle, dorks!)
47. Your kisses drive me crazy (let him try more often)
48. I go crazy when you look at me like that (Let him look more often and more closely, this will only benefit us)
49. When you leave I feel so bad (sometimes, but not very often, it can be used)
50. I couldn’t even dream that I could meet you (yes, a hook phrase)
51. My life became bright when I met you (Effective, worth using)
52. I don’t have enough words to express how much I love you (Phrase-lighter in a relationship, say once a week or a little less often)
53. You are the man of my dreams (Oh yes! The logical conclusion of this worthy list of phrases, frequency - approximately once every 5-7 days, no more often).
Greetings, my dear girls! Recently, a client approached me with a question: how to explain to a guy that I need him? It is not always easy to find the right and appropriate words. It all depends greatly on the situation and what position you are in. Today I propose to analyze some situations in which girls usually do not know how to behave.
Problem - solution
Every problem has a solution. But before you understand what to say to a guy, you need to figure out why you need this conversation and what result you want to achieve. Why are you going to explain to your guy that you can’t live without him?
You had a fight and now you need to make amends? Or maybe you want your ex back? Different situations require different approaches. Therefore, let's try to consider each option separately.
Lack of caring
Sometimes such a conversation is brewing due to lack of attention. The guy spends a lot of time at work or with friends and you feel useless, as if you were abandoned and forgotten.
First, don’t start sounding the alarm right away. Maybe now your young man is going through a difficult period at work and his boss has filled him up to his ears with urgent matters. To begin with, you just need to calmly ask if everything is okay with him. Find out if you can help him in any way.
Secondly, figure out what you will do together. Simply demanding attention is ineffective. What do you like to do together? Have a massage day. Go to the theater or cinema. Take a walk through the city at night. Instead of empty claims and complaints, take action. Get his attention yourself.
Don’t expect him to suddenly surround you with affection and care. Start demonstrating these qualities yourself and they will come back to you like a boomerang.
Conversation with your ex
After a breakup, many girls feel broken, lonely and unsure of themselves for a new relationship. I have witnessed a million times a girl trying to get her ex back. If this is your case, then I suggest you first just think about why your union fell apart. Maybe the decision to break up was right?
Most often, returning to a past relationship does not lead to anything good. People continue to reproach each other, blame and swear. Past grievances are not forgotten, but become more vivid.
Don't be afraid of loneliness. Read the article "". Take advantage of this time and devote it to yourself. Wanting to get your ex back is a lot like trying to grab your last chance. Believe me, this guy was far from your last chance!
His intentions
You want a serious relationship, but the guy is clearly not going to go to the registry office or have children for a long time. It is important to remember the rule of calm here. Do not raise your voice during a conversation, try to listen more, try to understand your partner.
Remember, in a relationship, not only your desires are important, but also the desires of the man. If you have already decided for yourself that you need to get married next year, and the guy is not ready, then look for another man who will agree with your plan. Don't force a young man to do something he doesn't want to do. Nothing good will come of this.
After a quarrel
You screwed up and made some mistake and now the guy doesn’t talk to you and is offended? First you need to persuade him to come to the meeting. In this matter, the article “” will be very useful to you. Because asking for forgiveness via SMS is at the very least disrespectful to your spouse. Have the courage to look into your eyes.
What words can you use to explain to a guy that you need him? Try to tell why you did this. Don’t blame him, saying it was because of your eternal absence that I went to the club and flirted with other guys.
After a quarrel, it is very important not just to ask for forgiveness and try to make amends with words, but to show through actions that you feel that you love him and that it is extremely important for you to make peace and not quarrel anymore.
Declaration of love
What to say to a young man with whom you just communicate or are friends, but you have long wanted to move on to closer contact? I have always been for honesty, directness and openness. Moreover, men are quite bad at understanding hints. For them, the more direct and accessible the phrases, the better.
Therefore, you can simply invite a guy to a cafe, a movie, or for a walk. Tell him that you would like to get to know him better, that you enjoy spending time with him. Be cheerful and smiling, then you will definitely attract his attention.
I bring to your attention the article “”. In it you will find a huge amount of useful and important information that every girl should know.
Make a decision depending on the situation. And always remember - you can’t force yourself to be nice! Love and appreciate yourself. Don't let relationships take over you completely.
If you have not found an example of your situation, write to me and together we will decide what to do specifically in your case.
Have a nice day!
A woman asks: “There is a man. Serious, strict, businesslike. On the one hand, I really like him, on the other, I respect him very much and am very shy in front of him. I want a relationship with him, but I don’t know how to tell him.”
Question from a woman (the tenth or twentieth of similar content over the past week):
“I like a man. Serious, strict, businesslike. On the one hand, I really like him, on the other, I respect him very much and am very shy in front of him. I want a relationship with him, but I don’t know how to tell him.”
My answer:
Letting a man know that you like him is a very exciting thing, especially for modest girls. It’s especially scary to hear in response “but you don’t tell me” or, even worse, ridicule and mockery.
However, in fact, the simplest and most effective way is to tell the man everything as it is. I am a supporter and opponent of uncertainty, fog, hints and wobbles. Therefore, I think directness is the best way. Of course, provided that the man knows you and knows you at least somehow. Otherwise, instead of a refusal, the answer may be an even more embarrassing “Who are you?”
So, Let's start with the situation if you know him relatively well (and he knows you) and the question “who are you?” won't sound accurate. It doesn’t matter at all whether you know each other in real life or online. Nowadays, even more successful acquaintances occur online than in real life, because people spend a lot of time on the Internet. And often relationships begin between people living in different cities.
The simpler and more direct you communicate to him about your interest in him, the clearer it will be:
1. His attitude towards you. Agree - great. If he refuses directly, he won’t have to suffer from the unknown. It will start “neither yes nor no” - see point 2.
2. Who is in front of you. You will understand a lot by his reaction. He will mock and sneer - it’s better for you that you recognized the idiot even before the start of the relationship. He will hesitate, “neither yes nor no” - his seriousness and efficiency are very doubtful. In addition, it is possible that he is a manipulator, a friend zoner. His answer will show his character traits very clearly.
When a woman makes it clear that she is not indifferent to a man, then she kills two birds with one stone.
A. Men react very poorly to all sorts of vague hints and other symbols. Especially business men. Making eyes, wagging your tail, making eyesores, having vague chats online, leaving comments and likes with them is useless. Most likely they will perceive this as ordinary female coquetry, which means nothing. And they will let it pass by as an unnecessary extraneous irritant. And if you do the same thing, but a lot and often, then a man may generally consider the woman intrusive and strange. Moreover, he may not notice it at all. And when you make it clear that you are interested in him, then these misunderstandings can be avoided.
B. When a woman unambiguously tells a man that she likes him, the man’s room for moves and wobbles is sharply reduced. In fact, he must choose between “yes” and “no.” Even by the nature of the fluctuations, you can determine a man’s mood. For example, direct questions. He doesn't give a clear answer because he doesn't know you well. Or because there is something about you that he doesn't like. Or he's just already in a relationship, but he's not telling you to keep you on the bench. Or he’s just a wimp who doesn’t know what he wants and is unable to make a decision. So he will hesitate, doubt, rush between alternatives. This is how much useful information directness and honesty gives a woman.
It is not necessary to say from the first word “I like you, I want a relationship with you.” If you are modest and shy, and are very afraid of rejection, then you can first test his attitude towards you. Is it positive or negative? Or neutral, indefinite? I explained how to act in the article “How to understand that a girl likes you.”
However, there is no need to be afraid of refusal. A clear refusal is better than to suffer for weeks, months or even years in the unknown and suffer from unrequited love.
But the opposite option, the man’s consent, will quickly direct the matter in the direction you need.
If he doesn’t know you very well, then it’s better to first attract his attention indirectly. The simplest, but far from the most effective way is to communicate on general topics. It’s clear why it’s the simplest. It doesn’t require any effort, it goes easily.
Why is it far from the most effective? Because they are really business-like, busy men who do not have fun on the Internet, but are busy with work. With your chatterboxes, they may consider you a chronophagist. A frivolous lady who simply kills time with meaningless, empty chatter. It's killing THEIR time. Therefore, there is a big risk of being ignored or even hearing a strict request from a man not to take up his time for trifles. For example, this is what I do.
Therefore, I recommend another method. It is more difficult, but much more effective. This is helping a man in his affairs. Just offer him your help. After all, you at least know approximately what he does? By the way, this is a great test of your feelings. A woman who is in love is drawn to help her man. So there are really no downsides here. But there is an opportunity to get to know the man’s affairs and himself, his character, values, worldview. This is a huge plus. Nothing brings people together more than a common cause. It is only important that this desire to help him be sincere. False desire - when a woman is not interested in a man’s affairs, she just wants to quickly and surely get him wrapped up - is quickly recognized.
Your sincere help to a man will serve an excellent purpose in the development of your relationship. It is unlikely that any man will brush aside his like-minded woman and faithful assistant. Remember: finding a mistress is as easy as shelling pears for a normal man, but finding a faithful companion is much more difficult.
How to react to refusal? No way. An honest refusal without manipulation and mockery is normal. A man can be in a relationship. He may like a different type of woman. You never know! At least, it’s better to cry once because of a refusal than to torment yourself for months and even years, being in uncertainty. And to boost your self-confidence and fighting spirit, read my article “How to respond to women’s refusals.” It is written for men, but the essence is the same.
How to react if he doesn't say yes or no? There are three options:
1. He doesn’t know you well, your character, and maybe treats you with caution and distrust. It differs from the other two options in that the man becomes interested in you and tries to get to know you better. Initiates contacts: dates, Skype calls. He asks a lot of questions about you, your attitude towards certain things and situations. For particularly serious men, this sometimes feels like an interrogation, but don’t be alarmed. This is not out of malice or suspicion. It’s just that thoughtful men try to understand what kind of person is in front of them. This behavior of a man is a sign of seriousness and determination. This is a good sign. You will understand why in comparison with the other two points. He treats your activity positively and supports it in every possible way.
2. He is a weak-willed, insecure person who himself does not know “yes” or “no”. More specifically, a weakling who does not know how to make decisions is always rushing between alternatives, running away from choice and from solving problems in general. He does not have a clear opinion or strong position on any issue. Including about you. This is noticeable in his passivity. He doesn't try to get to know you better so he can decide yes or no. He will accept your steps with joy. Actually, this is how such a person can be recognized - by the discrepancy between his own passivity and a positive attitude towards your activity. However, your activity may one day cause resistance. For example, if it leads to the need for a clear choice. In particular, if you invite him to move in together.
3. He is an ordinary manipulator, and he sees you as a candidate for the friend zone or for the bench. This can be seen from his frivolous attitude towards your activity and reluctance to get to know you better. In principle, he doesn’t care what your character is or what kind of person you are. It doesn't matter to the friend zone.
If you let him know that you care about him, and he greeted this with irony, ridicule, and mockery. Well, sometimes we run into some bastards. And you were lucky enough to run into one of them. It’s very good that his nasty essence was revealed before you started a serious relationship. Should you regret that fate separated you from such a person?
Warning: think, remember, have you done something to him that could cause irony? For example, if you once said “no”, cheated on him or left him, and now you decide to return to him or get him out of the friend zone, then you only have yourself to blame. Dull comebacks really can only make you laugh. Or maybe from the first words you began to put forward ridiculous demands and conditions with the same result. You only have yourself to blame for this.
Honesty, directness, and openness make life very difficult for manipulators of any gender, who find it more difficult to maneuver. The ideal conditions for manipulators are a fog of uncertainty. And directness and openness disperses this fog in no time. But healthy relationships make it much easier. When you know that your feelings are mutual, moving towards each other is much easier and more pleasant.